Last week I spoke of various types of “muscle memory” however I left one out. I feel it has earned a blog unto itself. It is the muscle memory of the heart; the feeling & loving heart, not the physical heart that pumps life through the body.
Like other “muscles” of mine, this heart muscle took an extended holiday from all things strenuous in order to enable me to focus on other areas of my life that required my immediate attention. Over the past 2-3 years I have found it beneficial to NOT multi-task where the heart was concerned. So, I purposely took myself off the market, making sure that my heart was locked safely away until the time I felt it was safe, that I was “ready” to let it come out and play in the sunshine.
By September of this year I was finally ready. I was given an exercise by one of my spiritual mentors to write out the “best case scenario” for an area of my life where I sought improvement. I chose romantic partnership.
With explicit detail I wrote of the feeling tones I would experience with this person, the deep, long conversations we would have about everything, the wonderful qualities this person would possess, how he would be on a similar path, though a bit farther along so as to provide guided insight along my way, the Sacred Energy Xchange we would revel in with fire-y passion and desire. Oh yeah! It was ALL in there!
Then I sat out under the moonlight and expressed my desire to the Universe, letting it know that I was now open and available to this relationship.
That night I had a dream- a magnificent dream of being introduced to an attractive man with distinctive features to which I was not typically attracted, being told that “you two would be great together.” The dream played out, and it was true: we were great together as the movie-dream played past 5 years of bliss together and the end credits rolled. As this happened I wondered: What happened to the story arc? Shouldn’t there have been a crisis and resolution of some sort?
As I wrote this dream in my journal and came to that end, I realized, there should NOT have been drama, for you see, I had also included on that “Best Case Scenario” list two little words: ease and grace. This dream played out exactly as I intend it to in the world of my awareness. I was completely in alignment and on board for this divine right partner to show up in my life: NOW!
Fast forward several weeks. I was invited to an event where the only person I would know was the hostess. Feeling an indescribable pull to attend, I decided to completely step out of my comfort zone and go at the last minute.
Things fell into place easily and I started to go on my “treasure hunt” to see what the “pull” to this event might be. I met a couple of dear souls immediately and ended my search, convinced they were the reasons I needed to be there.
Then I met a man. I was drawn to him in a powerful way, even though he appeared to be with someone. I didn’t pursue anything, I simply noticed for the first time in several years I found myself thinking , “WOW! THAT is an attractive man!!!”
As the event progressed he came to me and we had a short conversation, ending with the promise of continuing it at a later date.
Returning home to my journal, I re-read the entry containing the dream from a few weeks prior. To my amazement the man I met had the SAME distinctive features as the man in my dream! He even lived in the same area as the man in my dream! Did I REALLY call this guy forth into manifestation in my life?!
The conversation did continue and it seemed we both might be open to the possibility of more. We arranged to meet later that week. The days in between glowed with the newness of a teenager’s crush; full of anticipation of meeting him again under more appropriate circumstances and getting to know him. I was remembering what it felt like to be interested in someone- and it felt great! The difference between now and when I was 16 however, was that I was feeling these feelings for ME, not for the guy. He wasn't the source of my happiness, though the prospect DID indeed make me happy. No, he was the catalyst. A part of me that had been locked up was suddenly breaking free!
Over the course of several weeks it became clear that “we” would not be. I had many opportunities to have that “old” conversation with myself (He doesn’t like me because X-Y-Z / Why didn’t he call?) – but I didn’t! For the first time in my life I recognized the Truth about myself in romantic partnership; That I am perfect, whole & complete just as I am and there is a romantic vibrational match of a man out there, working his way into my life. What I am seeking is seeking me.
The muscle memory of my heart has been a great gift through this experience. I really AM ready now! I loved the feelings that moved through me and those are sweet memories my heart can tap into from time to time. My heart broke open wide to be fully available to this kind of love in my life; knowing that I AM that love already and in expressing it out into the world I attract more of it into my life. This is a sweet gift, but it’s not the only one.
The muscle memory of my spiritual practice kicked in too! You see all of the practice and work I’ve done in other areas of my life, realizing my completeness as I am right now, supported me through this experience. I moved past the old person that used to talk endlessly to myself, saying I wasn’t good enough for someone, or, when “this” happens I will be ready. I didn’t make excuses for his behavior, or lack of it. Yes, there were moments of disappointment and feeling less-than but I was able to move through those moments faster than ever before. I was able to release attachment to the outcome of the experience – and the guy himself - and instead be fully present with each and every emotion I had along the way, reveling in the excitement and being gentle with the disappointment.
I recognize that indescribable “pull” to be at THAT event, to meet THAT man, was my heart wanting to express itself as more love; to unlock itself once and for all, completely. He helped me do just that and I am very grateful for the role he played.
As for the “distinctive” physical features, locale and items on my list that matched up so perfectly? Well, God DOES have one DIVINE sense of humor! This was a Godwink of Universal proportion!!
"Be love now" - Ram Dass